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I've Got a 17 year old daughter called Jessica and when she got home from school yesterday she screamed at me said she hated me and wanted me to be dead why did she say that
 Kayleigh45 posted over a year ago
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POPclogger216 said:
Try to talk to her. Be a little persistant if she says she doesn't want to talk. And, if she does talk, don't interrupt or object to what she says. Listen to her, then think about what to say next before yelling at her. She may have had something happen at school, or where ever she was, and she blames you for that. If/when she calms down, softly ask her why she hates you, if it was something you did. It may have been something you did without knowing it.
And if she's insistant that she doesn't want to talk, then respect that, and walk away for a little while, let her think for a little bit. Just let her calm down, think about whatever happened, and give her a chance to explain.
Hope this helps! :)
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alisonfaith297 said:
well, i cant really tell you why she did that cause i dont live your live but i can give you some advice to figure out what it is. well, teenagers are so called very "moody" as people like to say. it probably because she is feeling sort of overwhelmed. that she just needed to lash out her anger at someone and you so happened to be the first person she saw. it could also be because she found out something you possibly had done and she is not happy about it. see the thing is, teenagers going through a phrase where their hormones levels are all over the place and the added pressure of school. their brain sort of goes into overdrive. it like a computer where you load in so much information that it would occasionally just give out. so whatever they can find as an outlet they used it. it may not be rational for them to shout at someone even though the person has nothing to do with it. but its in a way an involuntary action. so be a little understand that it could just because of stress.
now comes the part of how to deal with it, it you really want to know why talk to her but chances is she wont let you in unless you have an extremely good relationship with her. teenagers have a very good ablity to stuff all their problems into a box and one day it just comes bursting out. talk to her, reason with her. considering that your daughter is 17 using logic will help as by then her brain is fully functional in processing logic. anyways, my point is, dont feel so bad or beat yourself up about it, gently approach her and just let her know that your there for her no matter what and that you love her. you'd be surprise how far that will go.
GOOD LUCK!
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