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BabyBlud said:
I agree with Para, not all friends' parents will like you. Some people just have an instant dislike to people without even getting to know them, and unfortunately there's nothing we can do about these shallow people apart from ignore them.
If you're sure your friend will stick by you, ask if she's willing to allow you to talk to her mother and sort this out once and for all.
If she's willing, call round and ask politely to speak to her mother, sit down and explain how you're feeling and why and ask whether there is something you have done that has offended or upset her in any way. Just say that if there is, you would like to apologise for it, even though you didn't mean to as the bitterness between the two of you is hurting your relationship with your friend and you are worried about it. Tell her you value her daughters friendship with you and would like it to continue for as long as possible.
if she doesn't have what you think is a valid reason for disliking you, or doesn't accept your apology, then all you have to say is fine, i was the bigger person, i came to apologise and you didn't accept, but i'd still like to be friends with your daughter and you can not stop me from talking to her or helping her out when she needs me to. The calmly walk away, saying to your friend, "i'll see you at school". Don't forget to thank your friend for being willing about this too, just in case your friend's mother picks up on the little things like that.
Try to keep you voice calm and at a low level, even if she starts to yell don't yell back. If she won't let you get a word in edgeways while she's yelling her head off at you you have two choices - 1. either get up calmly say i'm sorry i upset you i'll leave now but i'd still like to continue this when you've calmed down, and then walk away. Or 2- sit the yelling out until she pauses for breath and continue with what you were saying.
But whether she likes you after, or hates you more or even whether she hated you in the first place and just wants her daughter to stay away from you, the choice is not hers.
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