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how do I get him to stop doing this?

I used to have this crush on this dude in seventh grade. He was like my best friend and we would always talk and text. I was manipulated by this girl who was my "best friend" to tell him I liked him - which I did, over a text. Which was completely stupid of me. He rejected me, saying I was a nice girl but he couldn't handle a relationship, etc. I didn't understand what he meant at the time (we were in 8th grade) since I never asked to go out with him. I just told him I liked him.
Everyone used to say that this dude had the biggest crush on me and everyone thought we were dating. I thought he was an okay, nice kid and the closest thing I had to a guy best friend. After I told him I liked him... It was sort of awkward between us. We didn't talk as often and we drifted apart. I stopped liking him in 9th grade since he became a COMPLETE jerk. I'm usually quite the shy person but if you get me mad or anything I can blow out on you so that's what I did.
The thing is... he started telling people I was obsessed with him. "Oh you know (insert my name here), yeah. She's so creepy. She stalks my Instagram and she texts me all the time. She's a freak. She is so obsessed with me, what a creep."
WTF. I don't even follow him on Instagram so I have no clue where the heck he got that from. And he would tell this to girls who could have been potential friends to me (since I didn't really have many friends aside from a few dudes in school... I wasn't a 'loser' or 'unpopular' or anything... I just found it hard to make friends with girls or kids in my grade). And I finally found out why; because that jerk started telling everyone I was creepy. I didn't understand why, since I never did the stuff he said to everyone.
Remember that girl I called my "best friend"? Apparently she liked him around the same time I did and was trying to 'sabotage' my relationship with him. I found texts in my phone to him that I never sent and were sent by that so-called best friend. I'm not friends with
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her anymore since... That'd be really dumb of me. But what do I do about this jerk head? He won't stop telling people how creepy I am... and kids aren't buying it that much anymore but it's made it really hard for me to make new friends. We're going to high school now (since 9th grade is still kept at our middle schools in our district) and I really don't want him to start calling me creepy to kids who could be my potential friends. It seems like he's content on ruining my life even though I never did ANYTHING to him. He was my friend in seventh grade, I told him I liked him, he rejected me and now he bullies me. Whenever I'm laughing about something with someone else he always scoffs and says to his friends "why is she so happy?" I honestly am sick of how childish he is... (My mom thinks he's doing this because he's jealous since I like someone else that isn't him... And people have told me that 'jerk head' used to be obsessed with me. I am honestly so sick of this... What do I do? Please help soon).
quaintcomfort posted over a year ago
 quaintcomfort posted over a year ago
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LorMel said:
I'm so sorry about your story.
But to me, it seems like childs-play.
The boy has a crush on the girl so hes the bully.
How to end it: you need to tell your parents & have them contact his. Tell them EVERYTHING that happened, no details left out.
Now, some people go to the councillor or principal, don't.
They won't do shit to help.
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LGYCE said:
Trip the bastard while everyone's watching. No-one will think you're obsessed with him anymore. Or something like that, just show everyone you don't give a crap about him.
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AnimeFan66 said:
I understand and see how your situation is troubling. And I would like to say that I am deeply sorry how it ended for you. As for my advice, probably the best thing for you to do is try setting the record straight to him. Go up and tell him to stop the rumors. If he continues to do so, just try to get your mind on something else. And if people begin whispering or gossiping behind your back, it's best to ignore them or simply reason with them- tell them the whole story and I'm sure they'll understand and apologize for what they said about you. I hope my advice helps you at lease and I am deeply sorry again for your whole situation. :( I wish you the best of luck. *Hugs*
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