a question for us girls. {please don't be judgmental, mean, gross, immature, etc...}

You're not the only one. This is a question I've seen addressed in women's magazines and sex books, and usually the analysis is that it reflects a desire to be completely submissive to one's partner, and that it clearly has nothing to do with the ugly reality of rape.

Yeah, I fantasize about it too.

Yes but most of the time I am the one that does the raping.It's only fantasies of course.I'm into Role Play not Rape.

Yes... but they are always good-looking and/or a person I am wanting sexually. I am never physically hurt (though that is a thing for some other people). Rough sex, rape scenarios- all to my own personal degree, and very much so... fantasize mostly.

I've tried in rl w/someone who we were really inlove actually, as in close enough to be married soon, & found it very hard to convince a bf when they are a gentleman & it goes against their grain mentally they just don't feel right about it. I guess once they understand (rl) that it is really totally different than the real deal - and they are comfortable with it not crossing their lines, then it is different, but tricky at first to communicate wants, etc. To answer your question: Yes.

I've never dreamed of being raped, ever. I looked up the meaning for this, dreaming of being raped. Apparently it means, well, I'll just copy and paste what I read 't means you have lack of control of something in your life. You really want to have the power to stop something, but it seems inevitable.'

I'm not judging, I was just wondering what it meant. I'm into those sort of things. I always wonder what I dreamed about means. I found the 'being raped' dream on wiki.answers.com

Either that or you have an immature fear of sex. I don't mean that in a bad way; it just means you aren't ready to face the fact that it exists in the world, OR you fear someone.

A different response:
Your dream probably is not about sex at all. But it could be, so let's deal with that first. If you have been raped, or fear you may have been raped by being drugged and don't remember, your dream may be trying to move you out of denial into action. If this is at all possible, get yourself to a women's health care center, a women's shelter or just to a good nurse or doctor, and talk with them about it. You can face it and recover, and there are lots of us ready to help you.

Now, if actual rape is not a possibility, it may be that your dream is telling your conscious mind that on some level, you feel that you are being violated. Is someone or something in your life taking advantage of you? Have you somehow been told that you have to "relax and enjoy it"? Are you saying "no!" but nobody listens?

If any of that rings true, YOU have to make it stop. You have the right to say "no," and you have the right to make your own decisions. You are a precious, valuable person. Take charge of your own life and claim your own work. Get help if necessary. You can do it.

I have strange tenancy to do so yes. I am pretty sure it comes from my fetish of being man handled and dominated. Although when I think of the idea of a stranger violating me its quiet terrifying, which is why I suppose the men I dream about are generally my partner or have defining characteristics that relate to my partner and hence make me fell more at ease. For some reason I love the idea of submission and dominance and have experienced in my own sex life that through submitting and trusting your partner enough with you body and in sexual scenarios a kind of bond is formed and that trust is built. Dreams of rape might reflect these kinds of fantasies or they may even portray one's fear of rape or even as simple as one's fear of sex or men. For a woman it can hurt greatly if not approached correctly, as many women learn their first time and the idea can be daunting. however since sex is such a common subject matter it is continually on one's mind and hence may make appearances in dreams as many different forms, depending one the individuals feelings of the topic. in short, you should not feel ashamed of dreaming about rape and really unless you wake up frightened and scared there really is nothing to worry about. your body is merely trying to tell you in a visual sense how you feel about sex or bout the fantasies you may have about sex whether your conscious mind realizes or not. What ever the matter of fact is, do not feel ashamed. People dream of other morbid topics like death all the time, these dreams are just visual recollections of what is one your mind and if sex is a common subject on your mind it will take many different appearances, especially when you wake up thinking 'why did i just dream about being raped?' all of a sudden its on your mind again and it pops up the next few nights.

Hope that helped.