Sex and Sexuality Question
Do you think you should have sex starting out as boyfriend and girlfriend or only in marriage?
Sex and Sexuality Answers
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Sinna_Hime_chan said:
I believe in marriage. This topic is so contraversial that I really did not want to answer it. I believe in marriage and I have been married and now I am not. I believe in the sancity of marriage and it just did not matter or work that way for me. Off and on I have been in different places in my life in how I felt and in what I did. It's very strange looking back and wondering why I did things or even thought as I did.
I think sex before marriage, whether with a bf/gf or not or waiting til engaged or night of the wedding is an individual choice {PROTECTION} and one you must live with the rest of your life. So when we make choices we should try to make them very educated ones and with our heart and gut and beliefs. If we do some diservice to ourselves we will regret it. If we make a choice and are niave we will regret it. Life is full of regrets, so I say to make as few as possible because we do not always have the opportunity to make up for it.
Love can also be VERY idealistic ... "Oh that won't happen to me... " Well~ It's a good idea to be very realistic, understand different possibilities that could happen outside your control and also know that there are completely unforeseeable things. We set marriage and sex on such lofty or dreamy pedestals sometimes when we reach for values or hopes and commit ourselves to what we truly believe is best for us, only real life is not often anywhere like that as it may turn out sometimes. Be careful. EITHER way be careful. Each path has traps and lessons, neither path is "safe." People have different reasons for doing things... and it is a very personal & individual thing.
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boytoy_84 said:
You can have sex anytime with your partner depends on what religion you are. Some people wait until they're married and some others start when they are ready to. 18 years is the best age to have sex for the first time. any younger is too young in my opinion. Plus, you must always use protection against STD, infections, herpes and to prevent pregnancy.
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legend_of_roxas said:
For me, I want to have sex only in marriage because of my religion, but I feel that anyone can have sex when they are ready and when they are above the legal age to consent.
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Otaku_Girl4890 said:
If I'm really in love with my boyfriend, and I feel he really loves me and we've been serious for a while, I think that would be a good time for me. I've made up my mind that when I feel I'm ready and I'm in a serious relationship (weather he's my boyfriend, fiancee, or husband) is a good time.
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Dragon4322 said:
sex should be after you're married. because it is a feeling that should be expressed when you are with the person you truly love
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Makeupdiva said:
Well, to me, when your ready. If you prefer to wait till your married than fine that's your choice but if you'd rather do it before marriage that is also fine. Some people say they'd prefer to wait till their married because of their religion. But whatever, again it's your choice. The main thing is, if your ready and you are sure, that your in love and that they love you in return than go ahead. I'm not trying to start an argument, you asked for my opinion, I gave it.
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swampfox31 said:
I think it mostly matters on what the two partners believe. If they both love each other and are committed to each other before they are married, then I see no problem with them wanting to have sex. They should be able to handle the forthcoming events that may come from their actions, however.
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Persephone713 said:
This is a very tricky and private conversation that a person needs to have when they feel ready. Once you give yourself to another person and lose your Virginity its gone. ( I personally dont believe in that " Born Again Virgin" crap- sounds like " oops! I changed my mind I want it back"). If you are in a strong relationship- and you feel ready, then talk about it. I personally would feel awkward having to tell my husband I gave my Virginity to someone other than him. I want to give myself to him on our wedding night. And Im not all that religious. I just think the following conversation:
"Honey, I love you but before we consummate our love, I have to let you know that I am not a Virgin, I gave it away to blah blah blah". AWKWARD!
But its all personal, and you hope you choose someone who has the same ideals.
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